Loving fully: respecting and admiring a man for how hard he works to make you happy (and he’ll go to the ends of earth to keep making you happy)

Men want to be successful with women.  Men want to make women happy and make them feel good.

 

These two sentences reveal some of the most important truths about men that many women don’t appreciate or even realize.

 

Many women are so busy playing the status game, or being selfish and greedy, to appreciate how hard men work to win over us, the women.  How blessed and lucky we are, no?

 

It makes me feel so incredibly good when a man helps me, whether it’s opening the door, lifting up my suitcase to the overhead bin, picking out a good restaurant after asking me what I like, listening to my fashion stories politely even if it bores him.

 

Men are amazing, they really are.  They work so hard, they are so brave, they do so much.

 

But many women of the world are so mean when men are trying to make them happy. 

 

I’m too emotional and passionate about this topic to write any good thoughts about how to learn to appreciate men when they are men.  But I will write my thoughts and put together some wisdom on this soon.

 

 A few things I try to do:

  •  Always, always, always express how much you appreciate something he has done that was clearly to make you happy or impress you.  Don’t silently appreciate it (but don’t go crazy and sound like no one has ever treated you nicely before either).  For example, say things like how good the food is, how nice the atmosphere is, how much fun you had, how his way of cleaning the car is so smart and better than what you were doing – whatever you genuinely liked, of course.  You may have to work on mental attitude if it’s hard for you to find things to appreciate.
  • Compliment him on his manly qualities.  It sounds funny but it means things like:  when you are indecisive and he pushes you make up your mind, when he gives you some good advice when you’ve just been venting rather than doing something about the problem, when he fixed your broken pipe or comes with you to the mechanic, etc.  I feel like men often “guide” me (so do some older women, sure), and I really appreciate it and don’t feel like it makes me less of a person at all.

 

There is something out in the Rules Girl land called the Lili files.  I have mixed feelings about some of the advice, but I think Lili was spot on appreciating men for being men.  And respecting and admiring every man you meet.

 

In India I’ve heard this called as encouragement.  People always talk about how you should encourage children, even when they do something a little funny or off like singing a song completely off key.  They say, “You should encourage them so they get confidence.  You can gently tell them how to sing better in a nice way.  But encourage them to try.”  EnCOURAGE.

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Footnote:  try to appreciate men a little bit more for what they DO rather than what/who they are.  If they work hard at work, appreciate that.  If they were born into a wealthy family who could afford to buy them all sorts of hot cars, don’t appreciate that (it’s cool, but how exactly did HE himself earn it, right?)  And even more focus on what he does for YOU – it’s most important that he treats you well rather than your ability to show him off/use him/control him/etc.

4 Responses to “Loving fully: respecting and admiring a man for how hard he works to make you happy (and he’ll go to the ends of earth to keep making you happy)”

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  2. finefantastic Says:

    ahh the ego stoke. everyone digs it. i think it has to be sincere though. if you’re always gushing compliments something seems fishy. because it is.

    • lovelysexybeauty Says:

      So true that it needs to be sincere. If it doesn’t seem to be from the heart, it’ll seem like you’re trying too hard, like no one has ever treated you well (weirdo), you’re trying to “trick” him even if you’re not, etc.

      Or it will be so gushy that it’ll be off putting (like when someone goes up to a celebrity at a social event and acts like a psycho stalker groupie).

      A more artful way of complimenting is to do it strategically. I know some girls are really good at it but I haven’t figured out their secret. I wonder if the Art of Seduction book might have something in it about that, I’ll have to dig up my copy….

      Thx,

      ❤ LSB

  3. Beauty, be lovely and sexy « Sophisticus Says:

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