This is some of what I’ve observed and what I have been trying throughout my life. Girls can have all sorts of reasons for not wanting to get down and dirty with a guy too soon: personal morals or beliefs, tactical reasons to enchant a guy, personal hesitations, etc.
I’m still experimenting and compiling tips so let’s see what else I learn!
Note: all of these tips assume that some guys just won’t put up with not getting any action. I’ve seen lots of guys who won’t wait around or just get angry and give up.
These tips will probably only work on a guy who is serious about a girl, or at least has the potential to be serious about a girl. I’m not entirely sure…
How to Keep a Guy Interested without Giving It Up
Show glimpses of the tigress within (pardon the cheesiness)
Girls can use the old principle of “lady in the street freak in the sheets.” She can show herself as classy, sweet and delicate, but let hints of something else much more naughty peek through every so often. This could be things like talking about how good a massage felt or how delicious something tastes. Or, if there is already some physical stuff going on she can talk about how good it feels, how much she likes it, etc.
Oozing sex and sensuality are also ways to do this: let that sexy little underwear peek out but in an innocent way, etc. I’m sure there’s more but that’s all I can think of.
A girl should seem like she loves sex or will love sex, but doesn’t give it up so easily because of her morals/need for love/etc.
You know how guys say they find a woman who is partially clothed more of a turn-on than a straight up naked woman? It’s because the hint of something naughty is far more sexy and sensual than something that’s totally obvious.
If a girl can drip with sensuality and sexiness in everything she does, she might be able to keep his mind thinking of how HOT she is and how to win her over (even over a long period of time):
How a girl walks and moves her body in general
A good walk can hypnotize a guy and drive him crazy. If she also knows how to stand, sit, and generally move sexily, this helps a ton.
How a girl dresses
She can dress sexy but “good girl sexy,” or bad girl sexy even! Not sure what works best myself. I like to dress with clothes that cover me up yet are very fitted and have like 1-2 sexy/naughty things. When I wear something very revealing I feel like I get less attention, which is really interesting to think about.
Outfits with some “reveal-conceal” movement are especially good (remember J Lo’s deep v-neck dress from way back in the day, which everyone would get hawk eyes on any time the wind blowed or she walked?)
How a girl talks, her mannerisms, and her facial expressions
The very small, simple things can make a man’s mind race. If every little thing a girl does is sexy, men will always be in a sexily charged atmosphere around her and obssessively thinking how to actually tap that. They will keep coming back for more… but if she’s too sexy, some guys may just get too turned on and go caveman! That’s when it gets hard to get him to back down without making him angry (see “cuteness and innocence” below for what I’ve tried).
Use cuteness and innocence
Some girls make it a fun game, like “catch me if you can heehee!” Every time he tries something naughty with her… she might give him a little bite of the good stuff… then moves away. If he really gets into it, she innocently giggles… maybe even says “what a tiger!” or something if he goes too far… she is sweetly feminine and happy when pushing him away.
She also uses hypnotic gaze (she knows how to control a man briefly with her eyes). That buys her time while she thinks of how to get out of the situation lol.
If he pesters her about why she won’t do more or he gets too aggressive, she can sweetly say “I need more time” or “I’m not ready yet…” or “I don’t know.” And she doesn’t explain too much which is useless because men and women communicate so differently. Smart girls are very careful to not say anything about themselves like “I’m traditional” or “I like to take things slow.” Smart girls understand that men communicate in terms of actions and needs. Girls shouldn’t talk too much (by explaining on and on and on). Guys think girls who say stuff like that are weird. lol
I’ve found just making little shy faces (and I am shy about talking about it!), just gently pushing away or not responding in a sweet way, has worked. Only when asks about it and really pushes, do I say anything about it and even then, it’s just like one sentence (I’m not ready, etc.).
Be perfect in every way
If a girl is perfect in every way, from how she looks to how she acts (fun and sweet and pleasant), if a guy is serious about her he will wait. He may even respect her more for not putting out so soon. He will be so excited by her, and so attracted from his heart that he will be able to control himself a bit. But he will probably try as much as possible to put her to ease and make her want it too. lol
Inspiration for all girls who want to save themselves for marriage/true love/whatever else: Adriana Lima
(It’s hard for me to try to look like her, but I try to copy her facial expressions and posture heehee :-))