College Boys are Mostly a Waste of Time…Except for the Ones Good at Math

Updated with photos I found of cute shirts

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There’s this article going around about the gender imbalance at many universities.

The New Math on Campus

My initial reaction to the above was that it was going to be about how guys who are good at math are getting all the ladies, since that’s where men are the majority majors:  engineering and science, finance and economics.

First of all, clearly the women who are complaining are probablu not studying engineering or non-biological sciences.  Or going for MBAs about 5+ years after school. There are still, to this day, WAY MORE MEN than women in these programs.

And the men in these programs probably do not tend to the player lifestyle unless exceptionally brilliant and whole-brain thinkers.  Studying intensive programs means you do have to spend a significant amount of time in lab and studying.

And if you decide to do other stuff on the side, like student government or run community service organization?  It’s a surprise if you have time to go out regularly at all.

But here is the key that even before I started college (a um, little while ago) that I always knew…

Young guys are not looking to settle down, only play around.  Don’t waste your time thinking you’ll get lasting commitment from one of them.  And don’t play with fire thinking you can play around like the boys can.

The girls who are trying to meet someone in college are doing something expected, which is meet guys naturally.  But really, it’s a waste of time.  Almost none of these guys will be looking to get married any time soon.  Unless these girls want to “practice” their GirlGame or just sit back and observe, if they are truly able to not get emotionally invested, I think they should just go their own way.

But Some Girls Do Want to Get Married Out of College

Many plain jane girls who majored in engineering and science fields (as I did) ended up married right out of school.  That’s right… they found husbands.  They beat “incredible odds” as some of the PUA and MRA bloggers out there might say.

Why?  These guys are usually more focused on learning or on schoolwork.  They might be the frustrated betas of the future that go to the PUA world to find help.  And if they get a girl they are happy with, they might be perfectly fine settling down.

As one of my friend’s husbands told her, “You had better not divorce me because I don’t want to go through the crap world of dating again.”  Yes, very beta to say but the man is happy, and she is a very traditional quiet-natured engineer herself.

And for the girls who worry, “But engineers don’t make that much money!”  Well coming out of school they do relative to other majors (usually) but over the long run, it’s true the salary is usually capped.

You know what they can do then?  Go back for their MBA and hit the big time.  If a girl marries one of these future Goldman Sachs associates, power to her.  If she can keep him grounded in his old values by being that amazing of a wife, then she’ll be OK.  (I’ve seen it done my friends, I’ve seen it done.)

So my advice to girls who do want to marry in college is to work hard to get good at math, and major in these fields.  You’ll find plenty of back-up options in case you can’t snag that future first draft pick jock (if that’s your thing).

And if you end up all alone, you’ll be making pretty good money as a science/engineering graduate.  And you’ll have developed a keen analytical ability which will help you in a variety of ways throughout life, even if you don’t work in your field at all (as I don’t).

That is all.

What can a girl wear that’s cute to the SuperBowl?? Also… Case Studies of QB Wives

So the Guy surprised me with a trip to Florida to watch the Superbowl this weekend!  Woohooooodatttt!  This is soooooo exciting, a dream come true!  Not a big football fan… actually not a big sports fan in general… but he’s been working on it.

So I’ve been going crazy trying to figure out what to wear.  My fan apparel is very limited… and not a lot of good options out there.  For a big event like the SuperBowl, would a classier more fashionable look work too?  In the colors of the team we’re supporting?  Something like this for example:

Marchin all the way home by AgentVixxen featuring

(I know it says after party but I’d like to wear it to the game! :-p)

In my search for information on what would look cute and stand out among the bajillion people going to the SuperBowl – in Miami, the land of hot girls no less – I came across some interesting info. on the wives of top football quarterbacks.  3 out of 4 QBs who made it to the championships are married.  Interesting!

Case Studies in QB Wives

Professional athletes, rich, good-looking (even “butHISfaces”), and glamorous are highly sought after by women.  To snag a pro. athlete for marriage is a major accomplishment, usually only possible by the most Alpha of females.  Many pro. athletes, if they even do marry, have affairs on the side.

I came across profiles of Mrs. Favre, Manning and Brees.

• All wives met their QB hubbies in or before college
• Deanna Favre knew Brett for about 12 years before they married!  Betcha anything he spent those years playing off the field. She got lucky in a way by sticking by him during a personal lowpoint, after which he married her.  (Health scares and major personal crises seem to push even the worst players to finally tie the knot.  See Diego Maradona and Hugh Hefner for more examples)  http://www.playerwives.com/mlb/playoffs/nfl-playoffs-saints-wives-vs-vikings-wives/  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deanna_Favre#Family_tragedies
• I didn’t find many details on the courtship of the Mannings or Brees’, but if you look at the girls’ pictures they are pretty but not amazingly stunning beyond belief.  (Despite what many Pick-Up Artists say, it’s not beauty+hotness uber alles for a guy to marry – the girl just has to meet his minimum looks threshhold). Anyway, bonding during formative years seems to pay off among other things I’m sure.
• Brittany Brees, wife of Drew Brees:  she’s considered to be the hottest Saints wife or something.  Interesting is all I can say… just look at the photo for yourself and decide.  I’m thinking she’s just a case of a girl who was pretty and had a lot of other amazing traits (she seems sweet), in which case, go her!  By the way, he doesn’t talk to his mother…. interesting, she must be the primary female support to him then?  http://www.playerwives.com/nfl/new-orleans-saints/drew-brees-wife-brittany-brees/
• http://www.yesbutnobutyes.com/archives/2007/01/who_are_they_no.html
• Peyton Manning and wife are supposedly in an open relationship, which they deny.  Very interesting… is that the one way to keep a particular type of pro. athlete who has so many options?  Rumors abound about athlete wives and girlfriends who do this. The girl gets to stay in the wife position (his #1), and the guy gets what he wants too. I don’t know how girls who accept this arrangement could have the heart for it though… I’d probably kill myself first or just find someone who is a bit more traditionally “one woman, one man”

For comparison, let’s look at some other Superbowl QBs of recent history:

• Tony Homo – oops I mean Romo, QB of the Dallas Cowgirls – oops again, I mean Cowboys:  unceremoniously dumped faded starlet Jessica Simpson.  I think she really overplayed her hand with him and needs to take a cue from Kim Kardashian about how to not be a distraction to your athlete boyfriend
• Tom Brady:  played around some years and married more-unique-looking-than-gorgeous supermodel Gisele Bundchen.  Gisele played around a lot before marriage and is aging out of her prime, so she must have great GirlGame, FameGame, etc. (a fellow GirlGamer [girlgame.wordpress.com] who I won’t name in case she doesn’t want to publicize a lot, has commented before about Gisele overcoming not being prettiest through charm – this “common knowledge” she knows through inside info.)
• Eli Manning:  the other Manning.  Seems like his long-time girlfrield became wifey not long after she sealed the deal… with a lapdance http://www.playerwives.com/nfl/new-york-giants/eli-mannings-wife-abby-mcgrew/
• Jeff Garcia:  I learned about him from the Girls Next Door show (lol).  His girlfriend is probably one of the top hottest NFL wives.  Even my Guy was like, look at what even a second-string QB can get.  Interesting how his woman still gets jealous tough:  http://www.playerwives.com/nfl/oakland-raiders/jeff-garcias-wife-carmella-decesare/ protectinf territory
• This is a crazy story, what a maneater chick:  http://www.playerwives.com/nfl/new-england-patriots/bill-belichicks-friendgirlfriendfiance-linda-holliday/

Average-Looking vs. Pretty “Alpha Females”

 I came across the blog of a self-described Alpha Female the other day.

source:helloamanda.com

I think she is very pretty. From pictures alone I can believe she has GirlGame. Further confirmation came when I read about her being recruited to entertain celebrities in Vegas. P.S.  I really like her blog in general, it’s great!

source: helloamanda.com

So I decided to Google around for other self-described Alpha Females. Oh. My. Goodness.

I was shocked at how, frankly, average-looking some of these ”Alpha Females” were.  Some of these girls were trying to give out love advice too.

I won’t be mean and post their pictures or blog links here. But you can run a search and click through a few of the links to see what I mean (hint: this includes video results).

But… what if a true Alpha Female is the type of girl who can really overshoot her league? I’m not talking about a temporary thing, I mean getting the lasting commitment of a quality guy, despite looking average (if that).

Am I being overly critical here?  These “hot” girls might have good advice but it’s hard to take them seriously when they don’t seem to have the “maximize your beauty” part down that well.

From iTunes: Latin Music for Household Chores

This is interesting (un-PC commentary to follow):

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• It’s obviously targeted at Latin people.  Who have the stereotypes of 1) a culture that is more traditional and macho, 2) working in the domestic business (e.g., cleaning) in the USA
• The picture choice is interesting:  perhaps to offset any feminist-style backlash, the photo is of the MAN washing the dishes and the girl smiling
• Yet, the man is a bit more Anglo-looking than the stereotypical Hispanic person.  Many people know there are Spanish speakers who either are white or just look it (“puro Espanol” types).  But this could be seen from the lens of “white guys treat women more equally.” I’ve heard that “American [white] guys are better” comment from women around the world
• This concept wouldn’t work with Indian people, too much of a culture in transition.  There are pockets of very loud and outspoken “Women’s Rights” activitists, religious extremists who are against anything that doesn’t support some ideal of pure Vedic sexless culture, etc.  Plus, well-to-do Indian women (who would have Apple products) don’t do chores… the hired help does.  And don’t even get me started on how ethnic Indians in the Western world would react…

Looking Hot While Watching Sports

A cute but appropriate outfit….

Hot Saints Fan by lovelysexybeauty

Tik tok time to finalize… kickoff in just a few!

The Less You See Him, the More Phone Games to Play

Making things work when a girl won’t be seeing a guy in person often… is hard.

Whether the long-distance thing is permanent or just temporary, keeping both parties happy requires a mental shift.

A friend of mine is a serial long-distance dater, and has been pretty successful with keeping good relationships with it.  (She tends to end up in these situations because she usually dates older successful guys in big cities, including internationally.  She started this habit in college and pretty much continued when she got a job in the same area after graduation; she doesn’t have rich parents who can fund her moving to NYC or London, etc.  More to her story but will stop there for now…)

One of the cool things she does, that I also do, are Phone Games.

Staying in touch during a long-distance relationship usually involves plenty of phone-talking, texting (sexting? yikes), Facebooking, Twittering, e-mailing, IMing and of course travel planning.

Just like when you’re seeing someone face-to-face, when you’re doing the remote thing, you should have fun with each other.

Unfortunately there is no replacement to in-person flirting, but you can do your best with the alternatives.

Sometimes there is a limit to how fun it is to discuss current events, share how your day went, gossip about people you know and share ideas.  Sometimes you realize you’ve talked about everything possible and it’s sort of getting boring.

This is where Phone Games can come in.  They are little games you play on the phone with each other that involve creativity, building imagery, and of course, flirtation too (if you do them right).

• “How we met”: this is where you make up a story about how you met.  The story can tease the other person about fun or cool traits. (Girls should do this without emasculating of course.).  For example, my Guy made up a story about how I came up to him (yeah right), and that he rejected my offer to buy him a drink… but when I turned to walk away, he saw my badonkadonk booty and decided he needed to get on that ASAP and came running back! lollll
• I went to the store and I…”:  this is where you name a store and talk about what you bought.  Could be the grocery store, could be the lingerie store, could be the sports store.   If you chose the lingerie store, this can be a FUN opportunity to create some sexy imagery in his mind (at the risk of giving him blue b**ls, oops)
• The singing game:  Indian people have this singing game, antakshri.  It involves singing part of a song, and the next person has to sing a starting with the last letter of what you just sang (letters are more like sounds in most Indic languages).  My English-ized version involves using the last word or letter.  It’s silly and not the same as the Indian one, but if you both like to sing it can be funny… you can add flourishes to it like the songs have to be about hooking up, country songs, songs by European singers, etc.
• “At my wedding…”:  just kidding!  Heck no, not recommended. Unless a girl wants to freak him the f* out. If you’re already engaged, maybeeee you can talk about your wedding night or the honeymoon (Phone seduction style)

Reggaeton guys have so much swagger… amazing how an average guy is like 500% more fun to look at when acts a little thuggish, like in this video.   It also helps though that Yandel looks like a Nuyorican Jay Sean. hehe

Final Thoughts

Girly Girl left a great comment on GirlGame a while ago about making “long-term long-distance” work in general.

If a girl doesn’t want to end up as one of a guy’s “hos in different areas codes,” like a Tiger Woods mistress, there needs to be a commitment, including one of eventually being in the same city.   It’s amazing to me to observe the number of men who are seeing multiple women in different cities.  How the girls allow it, I don’t know other than to think these guys have some seriously mad travel Game going on.  Crazy…

In addition, how you interact “verbally” becomes very important when you don’t see each other in person.  If you have differences that only work out because your in-person attraction is very strong, you need to change up your game to make it work in the absencce of that visual, olfactory and tactile stimulation.  Knowing how to talk, from being a good listener to having a sexy voice, can make all the difference.

Tip:  some of the best advice I’ve heard about talking on the phone, for girls, is about charmingly cute or sensual imagery.  Describing the pretty icicles outside your window, the cinammon loaf cake you’re baking, the almond oil you’re smoothing onto your legs, the lingerie you splurged on from La Perla … all great details to go ahead and share.  PUAs do similar things I believe, if I find a good reference on Roissy I will link to it.

I have more thoughts on all of these things, but will stop here for now.

xoxo LSB

Good and Bad Experiences Dealing with the “Cave”

I have a post on GirlGame coming about men’s “cave” behavior, and how to interpret it. 

No, it’s not about men being just like Barney Rubble and Fred Flintstone.   It’s about when guys seem to disappear all of a sudden, or turn aloof.  Does he need some space or is he just not into you any more?

My Personal “Field-Test” Experiences:

Some of experiences trying to deal with the cave (not to be construed as advice please):

• With a new guy (just a few dates): Ignored him generally.  Continued to date others, it wasn’t serious yet.  If he came back, usually gave one more chance.  If he continued to act shady (disappearing again and again, flaking, etc.), alarm bells – dropped him.  And often, if he snoozed too long, he lost out, sorry.

• In an established relationship: Left him alone.  Texted/called casually after a few days. Tried to control the “hamster in my head” about things he said, that “prove” he is a big liar and was just out to use me.  (When he talked about ex-girlfriends and hot girls who like him, or when he teasingly “negged” me, for example.)  Tried hard to NOT overreact too quickly.  Set an internal time limit for when I would start dating others.  Sometimes found comfort though attention from other guys, smugly thinking how replaceable he is (bad hamster, bad bad!). 
• Serious commitment: If a girl is in the middle of planning a wedding, just as an example, it can be incredibly painful to see her man disappear or seemingly avoid her.  If the relationship isn’t healthy, eventually someone would reach out angrily and eventually things ended.

Some of My Favorite Posts of 2009 (not 2008 :-) )

It’s hard to believe that soon, it will be one year since I began blogging! Crazy! 

I can’t say my writing quality has improved, or that I have had any moments where I had a great impact. But I can say that I am so, so happy where I am today compared to where I was a year ago.

Sure, I am one year less young (boo hoo ), and maybe a bit more weary from some of the rougher bumps following this path… yet I am more at peace, feel more in control of what happens in my life, and less confused about what really matters. And I am so, so blessed to have had a great Guy around to share this journey with

Who knows where things will go, and I do make little mistakes here and there still (it’s hard to shut off the “boyly” attitude sometimes and not take out my stress in weird way!). But I truly feel like I have the means and motivation to be the best girl I can be in every way, and that I am on my way.

Any way, on to some of my favorite posts last year (that I authored, I mean):

• From Betas to Alpha Men: How Can Women Inspire More Alpha Behavior?  – why can’t women become walking re-frames of feminity, inspiring a return to old-fashioned “me boy you girl” behavior?  Funnily, parts of his post were pasted to a few different message boards out there as a joke.  Perhaps I need to revisit this with the additional thought acumen I have gained… let’s see.
• Sexiness Can Be Better Than Sex: How Not to Give It Up But Keep Him Trying – My horcrux, my invincibility potion, my challenge, my kryptonite.  It may sound like teasing, but the ability to provide sexiness without actually compromising chastity is for me, the key.
• The Art of Being All Girl: A Fascination Read - Fascinating Womanhood and Fascinating Girl are the GirlGame books that have the biggest impact on my thinking this past year.  It may be a bit strong on the complete submission to his will side (ie., if your man is about to make terrible mistake, instead of questioning his authority pray to God that something else intervenes). But highly valuable nonetheless, and dare I say empowering – it’s OK to be feminine and traditional.  Don’t let feminist haters make you think otherwise.
• Jealous Bitches: Fat Bitch in Denial – Not the only type of Jealous Bitch, but the type that I had the most experience with last year.  C-kblockers suck… the mirror of that statement minus the block would be a better use of their time.
• Don’t Listen to What Guys Say, Listen to How They Act:  Some Guys are Paper Tigers – Any girl who reads the MRA-sphere or PUA-sphere and is alarmed must remember this… real life experience counts as much as, if not more, than the compelling free speech expressed by highly articulate and insightful personas online.  Plus, we all know how guys (and some girls) like to talk allll big right?  Don’t forget it… and don’t overreact (I have to remember this myself).

I leave you with my beauty inspiration of the moment:  her big baby eyes, alabaster skin contrasting with that dark fringe make her absolutely gorgeous! Hipster meets burlesque diva meets fashionista… I tried to copy a girl and I liked it

       

Average Girls, Even If Rich and Educated, Often Don’t Stand a Chance: White House Budget Directo-Pimp, Beautiful Babette, and a Loserette plus Baby

I remember walking into the Concierge/Club Lounge of the hotel I was staying at a year ago, sleepy and bleary-eyed.  I looked up at the blasting TV which was tuned to Good Morning America.

I perked up seeing the reporter on screen… what a gorgeous babette! OMG!  She reminded me of a European Aishwarya Rai…

I was astounded that someone that charismatically gorgeous was doing such an average show… shouldn’t she be the next Maria Bartiromo?  In fact, why is she working at all?  She must have a really great work ethic to not just capitalize on her looks and marry Alpha.

Well looks like babette was busy with other things… what a scandal:

White House budget director’s love child – who knew?

Beautiful and intelligent financial journalist or heiress-rich Harvard MBA… mm… yeah I think I know who I’d pick if I were an Exeter-Princeton-LSE guy working in the White House too.  The man has GAME.

Obama’s Budget Guy Has Child With Ex-Girlfriend

***Obama’s budget guy discloses child with ex-girlfriend, week after engagement to someone else.***

Heyyy this Orszag guy looks really nice in that tie… so “Harry Potter grown up and working as a banker” types… mm….

UPDATE

Wait, there’s more… he was MARRIED BEFORE.  Yes, this guy is a pimp.   He grabbed probably one of the top hottest all-around babettes who is ethnically Jewish, which makes this even more of a social coup d’etat.  He grabbed a topper girl within a community that has many stellar guys, who can have their pick of the best (the Emanuel brothers, anyone?). He beat them all out.

May the Force be with Orszag

On Dec. 28, the New York Times politics blog had a charming account of the engagement of White House Budget Director Peter R. Orszag, 41, to ABC News business and financial news correspondent Bianna Golodryga, 31. The couple met last May at the White House Correspondents’ Dinner. Orzsag, a very organized workaholic, told the Times the source of his attraction: “She’s a Russian Jew who gets up even earlier than I do.” (I suspect that Ms. Golodryga’s stunning looks and smarts didn’t hurt either.)

Orszag told the Times that he “got clearance [to propose] this month from his two young children by his first marriage when the three of them vacationed in Florida.”

Orszag was an economics lecturer at U.C. Berkeley in 1999. His first wife, Cameron Hamill, a Palo Alto native, is a brainy beauty who used to work for the Treasury Department. (A rabbi presided over Orszag’s first marriage.)

Cameron’s mother, Robin Wiseman Kennedy, a Palo Alto attorney, is a member of the S.F.-based Jewish Community Federation Capital Planning Committee and is the former president of the board of directors of Hillel at Stanford. She is currently married to Dr. Donald Kennedy, the former Stanford president. Her ex-husband — Cameron’s father — Dr. William Hamill, is the brother of Oakland-raised actor Mark Hamill, 58, best known for playing Luke Skywalker in “Star Wars.”

So Luke Skywalker is the great-uncle of Orszag’s kids and, I guess, “the Force” is with them — and maybe even a little with Peter Orszag. Lord knows anyone trying to fix the country’s economy needs all the help he can get.

Happy Holidays!

A special Christmas greeting courtesy myself and the other playettes ( Bhetti, LILGRL, aoefe, and sofia) is over at GirlGame for you!

In case you are wondering… what is the REAL LSB like?  She doesn’t list pictures, video, nothing… well check out the video and I promise you’ll get to experience the real me.

xoxo LSB