Different Ideals of Booty

Happy Halloween!

An issue of New Beauty magazine described how the perfect b*tt is defined by some different cultures:

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• African-American: Maximally full in all areas, including the sides of the buttocks and outer thighs
• Asian: Small yet shapely buttocks; creating the illusion of longer legs
• Caucasian “Athletic”: Small, yet shapely; short vertically; moderate fullness in the upper and middle thirds; flatness in the sides and buttocks
• Caucasian “Voluptuous”: Fullness in the middle half of the buttocks; rounded or flat sides of the buttocks
• Hispanic: Fullness in the entire buttocks, including the sides and a little roundness in the outer thighs

Hm… so how can girl achieve the one she likes best?

Enjoy the skintight and skin-show costumes today… hope you get a bite of something good.

xoxo LSB

"This blood sucker will suction her lips to your neck until you are under her spell...'I vant to suck your bone�I mean blood!' "

With Love to All the Sexy Beauties

I’m taking a lil breather to catch up, observe, learn, have fun, not overthink, not overanalyze, and most importantly… just enjoy all of life’s adventures.

I’m still posting at GirlGame. Hope to see you there!

xoxo LSB

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Shopping dilemmas: what’s the best strategy?

I treated my insecure and moody self to some shopping love today.

I am moody about shopping too. Sometimes I like everything I see, sometimes nothing. Today was an everything day. I had fun!

Some dilemmas I realized I go through a lot when shopping for clothes and shoes:

• I’m trying to lose weight (already .5 inch gone!). Should I wait to buy clothes when I am at my final destination? Or buy them a little snug? Or just buy my size now and get the clothes altered later?
• Really hot pieces go fast, so it’s better to buy now and return later if I change my mind. But there’s a time limit for that. And what if I want to wear a new piece? Should I wait until I’m sure I want to keep it?
• What if even hotter clothes come out in a few weeks? Should I buy all the hot stuff I see now in case clothes get even worse and uglier? Or should I wait to see what else comes out? What if I have a fashion emergency and need a hot outfit fast?
• Should I buy really nice (and expensive) going out and evening outfits? I will probably wear those items only a few times, but when I do the people I want to impress (the Guy and potential guys) will see it. So is it worth the investment?
• Or should I spend more money on work clothes since I am seen in those every day and wear those more often? Naaah… I need some hot clothes for work but it’s more important when it’s love time (I might meet someone at work but our special times will be after hours any way)
• Should I throw away the clothes I hardly wear? When do I determine I hardly wear them: one season, one year, 2 months, …? Some of them come back, I just pulled out some grey acid wash jeans from 2004 the other day!
• If there’s are two pieces, and one is in a color that’s really flattering but the shape is so-so, and the other has an amazing shape but the color is not your best, which do you choose?  Your most flattering color or what flatters your body?  Hm….

So many decisions… what to do!

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Update:  I am basically cool with the Guy again.  He said so many sweet things… teased me a little too.  I made up an excuse about not being available while he tried to reach me.  I am SOOOOO GLAD I didn’t talk to him when I was in the worst part of my moodiness the other day.  Who knows what weird comments I would have made.  After calming down I was able to be my normal sweet and in control self again.  Phewww!

Sad Skinny Secrets: ana and mia are the friends who will corrupt you

I seem to be coming down with something… could it be swine flu?  What’s sad is that I’m kind of excited… when I get sick I usually lose weight!

I’ve never had an eating disorder but I’ve been on the edge for sure.  For all the bad stuff people say about people who might be a little anorexic or bulimic, the girls that don’t carry it too far actually LOOK GOOD. I’m not talking about Keira Knightley or Posh Spice (Victoria Bekham).  I’m talking about Mary Kate and Ashley Olson… Angelina Jolie…  Megan Fox… I have a lot of curves naturally so the skinnier I get, the more the curves stand get definition (Jessica Alba style!).

Other sad secrets on ways I’ve tried to get skinny:

• Spit it out: I’ve literally spit out what I was eating when I realize how fat it would make me.  Gross, but at least the extra pound(s) won’t be even grosser later!
• Food poisoning: I hate to say it but I don’t mind getting food poisoning. It’s like being a little mia (bulimic) without having to force it!
• Thinspiration: I’ve tucked pictures of Nicole Scherzinger and Megan Fox into my purse before, to look at the next time I feel like eating freely
• Full on ana and mia: yes, I have tried fasting to lose weight.  It doesn’t work.  Your body goes into starvation mode.  Also, I can’t make myself throw up.  I have taken laxies and fiber to try to push food out of my system quickly after overeating before though.  Once I overdid this (a couple of weeks consistently) and my skin started getting sallow and dry.  I learned you can’t do that stuff long term without it affecting other aspects of your beauty.  You need those minerals and nutrients!

I’m still figuring out how to recover from momentary lapses of overeating and/or bad eating.  I think the skinnier one is, the more easily one can recover from a bad meal or two (or three lol).  So I have to keep at it with getting my skinniest and sexiest ever.

Thinspiration:

To get a younger man...who's a sports star...and french...look like this

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LSB daily beauty summary (it’s week 2!):

• Workout: indoor running HARD for 1 hour 15 minutes (aimed for 2 but didn’t make it).  My body aches so hopefully I exerted enough!
  
• Eating: lots of green tea with no sweetener, one coconut yogurt (270 calories…maybe 20 carbs…eeks… it was soooo delish tho), 7 almonds, 2 handfuls of grapes, 2 hoodia pills (was trying to stave off my apetite, which worked…didn’t feel like even having my salad…then i rebounded), vending machine trail mix, a kit kat bar, 12 mini cookies from Mrs. Fields, 1 more handful of grapes, limeade cooler with splenda.  This was one of my most UNHEALTHIEST days.  So much junk!  I can’t have something sweet to start off the day, it throws me out of whack too much.  And I have to fight the sweet cravings!
  
• Other beauty: been using the cream for my KP skin bumps… didn’t do my morning beauty routine or my routine last night, dopes!  I need to concentrate on this
  
• Fashion: dressed well for work for once, bought some cute new jewelry and cute new t-shirt, thought over my weekend fashion choices
• Weekend feedback:  I was good on Friday and Saturday but really overdid it Sunday…not sure why…I ate too much sweet in the morning again and it threw me off!  I need to cut any sweet portions by at least half if not more… and not eat the whole thing because it tastes good!  One bite at a time girl, one bite at a time…
  

Fashionable Flats vs. Sexy Heels (part 1)

Most women love shoes.  The right pair of shoes can help transform a woman’s walk, mood, posture, and perfect her outfit.

Traditionally, men are supposed to be bigger than women:  taller and with a bigger build.

Men definitely don’t like fat women, but guess what? They usually don’t like women who are much bigger than them either.  It’s not as simple as figuring out who is taller or heavier, but men like to feel like they are bigger than their girl.  They want to feel like they can protect a girl from bad guys and animals, and not the other way around!

Masculinity tends to be tied to height and build.  This is why guys spend so much time trying to bulk up and get big.  Or, if they are not tall, they love to work hard to become rich and throw their money and power in tall guys’ faces.

Many successful and/or otherwise attractive men tend to not be super tall.* (*There are many very tall successful men too.)

This can be a challenge for a girl who is fairly blessed with height, or who just happens to be with a guy who is her little “napoleon” conqueror.

Girls known for being tall and also super hot:

• Supermodels or high-end world class models
• International level beauty pageant contestants and winners (check out Miss Universe and Miss World contestants, especially the ones from Venezuela and Puerto Rico and even from India)
• Daughters of successful men* (there are studies where taller men tend to be better paid; the height just makes them look like leaders perhaps?)

The super hot tall girls all tend to have very small frames as well, which helps make them still look feminine rather than manly.

So what happens when tall beautiful girls and successful less-tall guys get together?

Carla Bruni is a former supermodel and now the wife of the Prime Minister of France, Nicolas Sarkozy.

Rather than taking the rockstar + model girlfriend route of not caring about the the height difference, Carla and Nicolas have tried to minimize it (“Why Carla Bruni is looking a bit down at heel“, “Nicolas Sarkozy and Carla Bruni: Why no heels?“)

What Carla seems to be doing:

• She wears flats or very low-heeled shoes, that are as fashionable and feminine as possible (if they can’t be sexy they can still be cute and femmy)
• She’s very slim (supermodel!), so she doesn’t need heels to skinny her up and elongate her
• She wears clothes that are very feminine and with a sexy cut, so that she still looks sensual and hot:

• She also makes sexy poses and expressions, perhaps a bit more so than normal.  Being sexy vs. slutty is all about balance
• She also tries to position herself so that she seems shorter at times, without looking slouchy or odd.  This includes putting herself on the bottom part of a sloping hill in relation to her man:

But Heels Are Just Plain Sexier!

So here is a dilemma: heels are just plain sexier.  The shoes are more stylish, more girly looking, and they do the following to a girl: push out her butt, elongate her legs, and force her to stick out her chest.

Even a frumpy boyfriend jacket outfit looks sexy with some heels (and make-up and hair)

Why oh why can’t these be 2 inch heels rather than 5 inch ones?

So what’s a girl to do?

I’m still figuring this out, but I’ll leave you with a few more ideas:

• If you already have a man:

Adjust your heel heights accordingly.  When going out during the day, rock the flats and low heels.

In the evenings, if you want to keep the shoes as low as possible you’ll need to do a lot of shopping beforehand to find something that will be appropriate.  Check out Zappos.com and Endless.com for a large selection of shoes (unfortunately the high-end shoes are even worse for finding sexy flats, although you can stalk Carla Bruni articles to find out what she gets).  I’ve found that the more formal evening shoes with low heels tend to be sandal slides.  I’m not crazy for slides, but that’s what tends to be available for some reason.

It’s not as obvious here that her heels made her taller, you can google for more pictures where she’s obviously taller or shorter

If you don’t mind being a little taller than him, it may work better to do that in the evenings or n formal occassions.  The main thing is that you must always look smaller and more girly than him, despite being taller.  I wouldn’t try to be more than an inch or so taller, in any case.  And when you are standing with him, practice ways to temporarily get shorter (sticking out your hip, slouching from the hips, etc.) while still looking elegant. In pictures definitely try to bend your knees slightly so you don’t look like the giant chick next to him.

• If you are trying to meet a man:

This is the risk zone.  Many guys who are not that tall are used to many women being taller than than them.  Some don’t mind a taller woman if she is really hot, but some do mind.

I would tend to wear as low of a heel as possible if you are a fairly tall girl.  This opens up so many more options in terms of guys.  It is tough to get hot and sexy shoes that are with heels less than 4 inches, but you need to do a lot of shopping and research.  And follow Carla Bruni’s example and sex it up in the other parts of your look (outfit, hair, expressions, etc.).

• If you are a short girl:

None of this post applies to you!  Get outta here, lucky girl! You can wear all the sexy heels with no issues.

Don’t Listen to What Guys Say, Watch How They Act (Part 2): some guys are paper tigers

A lot of guys love to talk big about how independent and macho they are.  They’ll say things like:

• “If my girl ever gains weight, I’m kicking her to the curb.”
• “If my girl were to talk back to me, you better bet I’m slapping that b*tch.”
• “Marriage, nahhh…. I’m not doing that. At least not until I’m 40 hehe.” (Said by a 25 year old guy)
• “I’m only going to marry a girl who can accept that she’ll have to share me with a mistress or two.”

Whoaaaa tiger!

For sure there are some guys out there that will hold certain beliefs so dearly that they will never, ever compromise.

But there are many guys who like to talk one way but will in actuality act differently.  Once they actually get into a particular situation they will show a bit more restraint, flexibility, and open mindedness.

Paperrrr tiger!

This is pretty obvious when you think about it.  If you were to observe groups of men chatting, particularly if the guys the younger side, you will almost always hear some level of “big talking.”  Guys will tend to talk big about how they one-upped other guys, or about how they are going to be so successful, and of course about how they rule with the ladies.

Some of these guys will put on a big show in front of their friends, but in private with their girl will act very differently.

I can’t think of any links to prove this in terms of celebrity stories.  But all I can share is that I’ve seen guys who:

• claimed they will never marry get married one they met a special girl,
• say that they would slap their women if she were to get out of line become semi-subservient to a woman (usually a very, very physically attractive one)
• say they would only marry a girl much younger than them marry girls closer to their age.

Some things I try to remember:

• Men and women both change with life experiences.  As you grow and have more experiences, your beliefs and ideas are shaped.
• When people feel the need to prove something, they’ll tend to talk big.  Again it’s more important to watch their actions, particularly over time.
• Situations change, and with them so do the importance of certain things.  And sometimes people are willing to trade one thing for another (e.g., freedom to be with any woman for the comfort of having one so they can focus more energy on their career goals)

So let’s say you are girl seeing a guy, and he makes some sort of outlandish statement like one of the ones at the beginning of this post. Do you bail? Do you chew him out? Do you let him know that you also have certain “non-negotiables?” Or do you wait it out like a silent tigress stalking her prey?

My next post will talk about some ways to pass guys tests. I’m still learning how to do this myself, but thinking back there are some ways to turn common guy tests on their head.

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The theme of this post was partly inspired by a message sent to me by LILGirl – thank you!

Jealous B*tches series: The Fat B*tch in Denial

The Fat B*tch in Denial is one of the most annoying Jealous B*tches a girl may ever have to deal with.

Deep down inside these girls KNOW that being overweight is not cool. Instead of spending hours controlling their appetites, picking out healthy and moderate meals, and hitting the gym, they spend most of their time putting together “slimming” outfits (usually in shades of black), carefully photoshopping pictures to put up online, and causing problems for us skinnier ones.

Here are some classic signs of a Fat B*tch in Denial:
* She will never, ever talk about anything remotely related to weight when it comes up. She’ll be strangely silent during groups discussions of workout routines, new diet fads, how amazing Megan Fox looks, etc. She’s the fat elephant in the room and she knows it.
* She spends lots and lots of time online on sites like match.com and Facebook. Her photos on these sites will be very, very carefully picked out. She will often block her photos from being displayed on Facebook, quickly untagging anything that shows how she really looks.  She instead prefers to put up her own carefully selected pictures  that are photoshopped and/or taken from a highly flattering angle. (Additional hint: she doesn’t have many photos up at all, nor she does frequently have new photos like most people who are on Facebook all the time do.) She’ll seem surprised to see photos of herself when it’s clear how fat she is.  Also, she meets a lot of guys online and in fact prefers to meet them online rather than in person.
* If there’s someone fatter than her, she’ll make fun of that person making everyone around her uncomfortable.  She’ll say some of the most cruel things possible, mirroring what she herself knows about herself (“What a fat ugly cow.”)
* She’ll seemingly be in denial of the importance of body size to attracting a mate, and might even argue that it’s not important (but being in denail, she might even agree that weight matters which makes you wonder huh??). Because of her success with meeting guys online, where she uses clever flirting and those cleverly photoshopped photos to entice men into her web of dishonesty, she’ll have false ideas about how popular she is with the boys. This will incite jealousy in her when she’s clearly the odd woman out when she’s out and about in real life.
* Another thing on the online flirtations which are a favorite of the Fatties: she will maximize the time she spends with these guys chatting or one the phone while minimzing actual face time.  To these guys, she will come up millions of excuses for why she can’t meet – usually after agreeing to meet and then pretty much flaking last minute. She knows that if she doesn’t agree to meet it will make it seem like she’s hiding a secret (which she is).  She’ll make it seem more like she’s traveling a lot, is busy with a sick relative, very slammed with school stuff, or even hint at seeing someone else.  So a clue to the boys: if a hot girl online loves to chat, and is really fun to chat to, but somehow has seemingly valid last-minute excuses for why she couldn’t meet, she’s might be a Fatty!

* Also, it’s always funny to note that these girls are usually in long distance relationships with guys they meet online.

* Many of these girls have had moments of skinniness when they got their acts together (sometimes due to pressures from a boyfriend or just getting a clue). They will use the photos from these times to the maximum; you will see random photos from their skinnier days as their new Facebook profile picture from time to time (making you wonder, why is she using such an old photo?).  In addition, most of their photos will be from the chest or neck up.
* Often these girls will have a very pretty face which helps them have moderate success in the relationship world. It helps for those photoshopped pictures since it is much harder to photoshop a face.
* When in public they will get food-anxiety realizing how fat they are, and eat an amazingly small amount of food saying they are “not hungry.” This makes you wonder why she is so big then if she doesn’t eat a lot? Well, it’s all that junk at home they’re sneaking!
* When you meet their ‘boyfriends’ they met online, those guys might bring up stories of how she talked about just recently gained weight the past few months due to xyz reason. And she’ll pressure you as a friend to back up her story as having always been skinny but just very recently putting on some pounds.

How do these Fat B*tches in Denial hurt the skinnier girls?
* They might encourage you to eat a lot hoping you’ll get fat like them. Mm ya, FAT CHANCE lol.
* They’ll find all sorts of amazing faults in any guy that approaches you, saying that he seems creepy, weird, ugly, low class, etc. They’ll try to get others to also agree to put peer pressure on you to reject what might be a perfectly normal guy. They might even make it into a matter of friendship, and act really mad that you are “hurting yourself by doing something so obviously stupid.”  To not seem like a loser-chasing girl or like a girl who bails on her friends for some random guy, you will have to side with your friends.
* Basically they’ll cause a lot of drama so that you don’t have success with men. They may create false stories about you, they may try to talk to a potential love interest and tell him bad things, they may try to make you look bad when you’re around boys asking seemingly innocently about negative thigns, etc. These girls have a well developed arsenal of passive aggressive warfare, and years of being fat and rejected have honed their skills.

Watch out for the fat ones my friends… that big black shadow is more dangerous than you think!

From Betas to Alpha Men: How can women inspire more Alpha behavior?

On websites which focus on Game for men and pick-up artistry, all of the emphasis is on a man independently finding a way to be more “Alpha.”  The focus is on how a man can shape his own worldview and behavior to give off more dominance and leadership qualities.

I can’t recall EVER seeing any of these websites talk about how women can encourage more Alpha behavior from their men. 

I have a theory that there are some small ways to do this.  Some of the principles that I theorize might work are:

I. Be more feminine and he will complement you by being more masculine. If you appeal to a man’s basic instincts, more macho behavior may kick in.

II. Teach him how to treat you by rewarding masculine behavior. Make a clear link to the behavior you like to your behavior that will make him feel good.

III.  In your persona, create a world and environment where he feels comfortable to be all man, including making him feel like you’d accept him even as a slightly chauvinistic and old fashioned guy!

Some ideas on ways to do Principle I (be more woman so he can be more man):

• Move very slowly in general when walking and sitting so that he can step up the pace and lead you faster.  Seem slightly clueless even or distracted (good if you are distracted laughing at his jokes or listening to him, this would probably be a compliment to him?)
• Let your mind wander as much as you want (this is so easy for me).  This way he has to step in and bring you back to earth when you are not sure what to do or where you are.  Basically he will see you as fun and in the present, but needing his guidance and stuff.
• Be a slave to your weaknesses and whims!  For example: when you lose your balance let him catch you rather than catching yourself, let yourself get distracted by the cute puppy even though you are running late so he has to tell you hey let’s go we’ll be late (hopefully he will be amused by your preoccupation by such girly things), hesitate when going into a crowds and say you are afraid (so he will hopefully lead you right on through that mass of people), etc.
• Feel free to be as girly girl as you want to be!  Talk in a sweet, femmy voice and don’t be embarassed that someone will think you are dumb.  Wear your hair long and glamorous.  Wear pink and red and other bright girly colors.  Wear skirts even when others would wear jeans.  Wear heels and walk all over town in them. Don’t worry about being all girl; most guys who are real men deep down inside won’t think less of you.  Ignore the haters mainly women who will make snide remarks if they see you struggle walking on a grate with those heels or have to hold your dress down when the wind gusts; everyone else knows you look hot!

Some ideas on ways to do Principle II (encourage good manly behavior and discourage unmanly behavior)

• Compliment any manly thing he does, like picking out where to go, helping you get through that busy crowd, giving you directions because you keep on getting lost (as you let your mind wander naturally), telling you how to solve that issue, etc. 
• Major bonus points if you compliment or build him up in front of others for manly things like how good he is as picking menu items on new restaurants, or how he figured out how to connect the wireless speakers to your iphone in 5 minutes when you couldn’t in 5 hours, how he keeps on winning the office pool, how he like predicts what the press will say before stuff happens in the markets, etc.
• Physically position yourself so he is in a dominant position.  If you are sitting together, subtly try to be smaller.  If you are walking, make sure he is the leading one (unless he is being a gentleman and doing the ladies first thing, that part I haven’t figured out how to work around yet because I don’t want to force him to walk in first because that’s leading), if you are embracing each other sink into his big chest, look up at him with adoration and look at his big size if he puffs himself up, etc.
• When he does something feminine, like show weakness at getting hurt, I’m not sure what’s best.  I would say either letting your mind and person wander right out his sight, or even showing subtle disgust or surprise, might be the way to go.  Like if there’s a bug and he freaks out and starts cowering behind you, that’s really BAD; I would probably leave him and run behind him and be like “please please protect me” and one-up him on the girliness!  At all costs do NOT decide to step in the man role for him; that will just encourage him to be girly man more.  I could be wrong on this though; I think it depends on the specific thing he is doing that is feminine, which is open to interpretation.  Like if he cries when he hears his friend from school got killed in Iraq, that’s not feminine; but if he cries when a bird flies into the windshield unless he had a pet bird that looked the exact same way when he was a kid that someone ran over, that’s probably feminine.

Some ideas on how to do Principle III (create an environment around you where he feels fully comfortable being all man):

• This is going to be controversial to say, but honestly: do not ever praise feminism or women who are ’strong’ in a more masculine sense.  Praise women and men who show traditional gender roles.  For example, if Obama does something where he leads his whole family, even say “How nice he is so the leader of the nation and his girls too,” or something.  I can’t think of good ways to do this without being cheesy, but hopefully on the fly all girls aspiring to this will recognize the opportunity!
• Feel free to mention, when appropriate and it comes up, how you like girly things or like traditional values, or values in other cultures where people follow traditional gender roles.  Don’t be super obvious about it because someone who talks too much about this stuff looks suspicious especially if their actions don’t reflect these beliefs.  And it’s kind of weird to talk about and a little bit of a touchy and controversial subject in this very politically correct world we are in today.  But mentioning them indirectly might help.  One example:  I talk about how Indian men tend to be very possessive, and I find it funny when many American girls will say a guy I’m seeing seems controlling because I grew up with male family members who treat me the same way and am used to it!  To me it just seems like “possessive” guys just want to make sure I’m OK and take care of me…
• Be a girly girl, let him be the man and do manly stuff like open doors, lift heavy things, figure things out, etc.

I’m going to experiment in my life and see how much of all this works.  I have a feeling I do many of these things subconsciously any way, because I feel like most men I meet are pretty manly; the degrees of manliness are what vary.

Sexiness can be better than sex: how to not give it up but keep him trying

This is some of what I’ve observed and what I have been trying throughout my life.  Girls can have all sorts of reasons for not wanting to get down and dirty with a guy too soon:  personal morals or beliefs, tactical reasons to enchant a guy, personal hesitations, etc.

 

I’m still experimenting and compiling tips so let’s see what else I learn!

 

Note:  all of these tips assume that some guys just won’t put up with not getting any action.  I’ve seen lots of guys who won’t wait around or just get angry and give up. 

 

These tips will probably only work on a guy who is serious about a girl, or at least has the potential to be serious about a girl.  I’m not entirely sure…

 

How to Keep a Guy Interested without Giving It Up

 

Show glimpses of the tigress within (pardon the cheesiness)

Girls can use the old principle of “lady in the street freak in the sheets.”  She can show herself as classy, sweet and delicate, but let hints of something else much more naughty peek through every so often.  This could be things like talking about how good a massage felt or how delicious something tastes.  Or, if there is already some physical stuff going on she can talk about how good it feels, how much she likes it, etc.

 

Oozing sex and sensuality are also ways to do this:  let that sexy little underwear peek out but in an innocent way, etc. I’m sure there’s more but that’s all I can think of.

 

A girl should seem like she loves sex or will love sex, but doesn’t give it up so easily because of her morals/need for love/etc.

 

 

Ooze sensuality

You know how guys say they find a woman who is partially clothed more of a turn-on than a straight up naked woman?  It’s because the hint of something naughty is far more sexy and sensual than something that’s totally obvious.

 

If a girl can drip with sensuality and sexiness in everything she does, she might be able to keep his mind thinking of how HOT she is and how to win her over (even over a long period of time): 

 

• How a girl walks and moves her body in general

A good walk can hypnotize a guy and drive him crazy.  If she also knows how to stand, sit, and generally move sexily, this helps a ton. 

 

• How a girl dresses

She can dress sexy but “good girl sexy,” or bad girl sexy even! Not sure what works best myself.  I like to dress with clothes that cover me up yet are very fitted and have like 1-2 sexy/naughty things.  When I wear something very revealing I feel like I get less attention, which is really interesting to think about. 

 

Outfits with some “reveal-conceal” movement are especially good (remember J Lo’s deep v-neck dress from way back in the day, which everyone would get hawk eyes on any time the wind blowed or she walked?)

• How a girl talks, her mannerisms, and her facial expressions

The very small, simple things can make a man’s mind race.  If every little thing a girl does is sexy, men will always be in a sexily charged atmosphere around her and obssessively thinking how to actually tap that.  They will keep coming back for more… but if she’s too sexy, some guys may just get too turned on and go caveman!  That’s when it gets hard to get him to back down without making him angry (see “cuteness and innocence” below for what I’ve tried).

  

Use cuteness and innocence

 

Some girls make it a fun game, like “catch me if you can heehee!”  Every time he tries something naughty with her… she might give him a little bite of the good stuff… then moves away.  If he really gets into it, she innocently giggles… maybe even says “what a tiger!” or something if he goes too far… she is sweetly feminine and happy when pushing him away.

 

She also uses hypnotic gaze (she knows how to control a man briefly with her eyes).  That buys her time while she thinks of how to get out of the situation lol.

  

If he pesters her about why she won’t do more or he gets too aggressive, she can sweetly say “I need more time” or “I’m not ready yet…” or “I don’t know.”  And she doesn’t explain too much which is useless because men and women communicate so differently.  Smart girls are very careful to not say anything about themselves like “I’m traditional” or “I like to take things slow.”  Smart girls understand that men communicate in terms of actions and needs.  Girls shouldn’t talk too much (by explaining on and on and on).  Guys think girls who say stuff like that are weird. lol

 

I’ve found just making little shy faces (and I am shy about talking about it!), just gently pushing away or not responding in a sweet way, has worked.  Only when asks about it and really pushes, do I say anything about it and even then, it’s just like one sentence (I’m not ready, etc.).

Be perfect in every way

If a girl is perfect in every way, from how she looks to how she acts (fun and sweet and pleasant), if a guy is serious about her he will wait.  He may even respect her more for not putting out so soon.  He will be so excited by her, and so attracted from his heart that he will be able to control himself a bit.  But he will probably try as much as possible to put her to ease and make her want it too. lol 

 

UPDATE

Inspiration for all girls who want to save themselves for marriage/true love/whatever else: Adriana Lima

 

(It’s hard for me to try to look like her, but I try to copy her facial expressions and posture heehee )